Books

Mysterious Moments: Thoughts That Transform Grief     Written by Jane Williams, Ph.D., this is a collection of 10 stories based on real life experiences of loss.  Although each story is unique, a common theme ties the narratives together.  All of the grievers, despite their distress and suffering, experience moments in which they have transformative thoughts that allow them to reframe their grief.   
No Time to Say Goodbye: Surviving the Suicide of a Loved One
Written by Carla Fine, this book brings suicide survival from the darkness to the light by speaking about the overwhelming feelings that accompany the grief  journey.
After Suicide: A Ray of Hope for Those Left
Takes the reader beyond the silence and shame often associated with suicide and shatters some of the myths associated with this tragedy. Written by E. Betsy Ross.
I Wasn’t Ready to Say Goodbye
A very helpful book dealing strictly with sudden death situations. Written by Brooke Noel and Pamela Blair.
The LITTLE WAY of Ruthie Leming
A very helpful book dealing strictly with sudden death situations. Written by Brooke Noel and Pamela Blair. A friend and colleague in ministry, Dr. Karen Akin, recommended to me The LITTLE WAY of Ruthie Leming by Rod Dreher.    She shared that it was a tremendously thoughtful and emotionally packed reflection of sibling love, rivalry, and forgiveness in the face of life and death.   Trusting her suggestion, I quickly downloaded the book and began reading.  Many times while reading, I got that tightness in my throat and chest because the both the reality of sibling relationships and the dimensions of love are expressed with honesty and beauty.
The Secret of Salix Babylonicus: A Parable of the Weeping Willow
The Secret of Salix Babylonicus: A Parable of the Weeping Willow is a story of healing, hope, and perseverance for the bereaved and the brokenhearted, the persecuted and the walking wounded. Grounded in the wisdom of the prophets and the psalms, watered by the spirit and the faith of the gospel, this parable will lead those in need of compassion, catharsis, and pastoral care to their very source.
Windows, an Austin Presbyterian Theological Seminary
The Winter Edition focused on “the heart of ministry” and contained stories about ministries of care.

Grieving the Loss of a Loved On
Sammye Wood attended a Faith & Grief Luncheon at Saint Michael and All Angels to continue processing the death of her daughter, Kaye.  Sammye said, “This book is somewhat different in that it provides lined space at the conclusion of each day’s devotional on which the reader may jot down thoughts or comments. I really like the attitude and presentation of this book. I bought one for my granddaughter, Jenni (Kaye’s daughter), to take back to Boston with her because I thought the journal aspect might appeal to her. She loves to write.”
I’m Grieving As Fast As I Can: How Young Widows and Widowers Can Cope and Heal
Written by Linda Feinberg, this book comes highly recommended by persons in the throes of raw grief.
Seven Choices: Finding Daylight After Loss Shatters Your World
The author, Elizabeth Harper Neld who was widowed at a young age, sees in her experiences and in the experiences of others a pattern of movement from the time of the first blast of loss until equilibrium is regained.
Inside the Broken Heart:  Grief Understanding for Widows and Widowers
Written by Julie Yarbrough, this book is a thoughtful, powerful book full of compassion and wisdom about the process of grief and mourning.  Julie does understand the grief journey because she faithfully walks it since the death of her husband, Leighton, who served for as senior pastor for Highland Park United Methodist Church.Julie has placed personal stories in the book, along with scripture, and snippets from poets and authors.  She even includes portions of sermons preached by Leighton.   She understands that it is often difficult to pray in the process of grief.  She writes, “One of the most confusing aspects of grief is prayer.  When our emotions are in turmoil, it is difficult to focus the mind and spirit to pray.  We want to pray, yet we find no peaceful place with because our heart is consumed by anxiety and fear.  After Leighton died my mind was a chaotic jumble of thoughts.  My random prayers surely made little sense to God.”She offers comfort in this time by sharing “when pain is all-consuming, we may resist the impulse to pray.  God understands; God carries our broken heart. “The image of God carrying our broken heart is both comforting and reassuring.  Perhaps, in the anguish and fear of grief, you can imagine and trust that God tenderly carries your broken heart; therefore, journeys with you.
Seasons of Grief and Healing:  A Guide for Those Who Mourn
The author, James Miller is packed with inspiring reflections from Scripture, poetry, and great literature.  It suggests simple, affirming activities to guide readers through “seasons” of grief at their own pace and in their own way.  The section on Winter comforts readers by reminding them that “in the winter of your grief, God winters with you.”
Grieving: A Beginner’s Guide
Written by Jerusha Hull McCormack is a clear-eyed account of the many emotions and situations a grieving person may encounter. By her own admission, this book is “less a consolatory piece than a tour guide,” and what a guide it is. McCormack writes straight from the heart in simple language infused with a spirituality that is never preachy or pushy. She covers so much ground in such a little book that the reader could devour it quickly in hours or spend weeks reading it slowly, savoring each bit of wisdom.

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  1. Rebekah Miles says:

    Thanks Fran for your kind words about my book. I’m glad that it was helpful. Blessings in your ministry. Peace, Beka P.S. For my aunt and uncle, whose 40 year old son died suddenly and unexpectedly two years ago, the Hickman book has been a Godsend.

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